So for me, my quest is to find a way to do BOTH, live a full active lifestyle

This is definitely my goal, though I have had to redefine "full active" in the past couple of years.
For instance, I practice tai chi and swim now instead of hiking 6-10 miles with my hiking group. I've met lots of new inspiring people at the pool and have slowly gotten over the resentment against my joints.
Foam earplugs work great for loud situations and movies, because they filter out the extreme high frequencies but let you hear the middle and low tones.
And stretching THE MINUTE I notice I'm feeling pain helps so much. I don't even have to do the whole routine, just a couple of simple stretches and presto. Much better.
