It sounds like, overall, it was a pretty good appointment. Now that you have a definite diagnosis, as opposed to a susptected one, you can make some decisions longterm.
I don't blame you for not wanting to take the meds. I didn't either, at first. After a couple of years, I had to admit that what I was doing wasn't working as well as it should and changes were required. It was only after a ton of soul-searching that I finally called my rheumy and told him I was ready to let him do his job fully.
I know the exercises are tiresome, but they really are important. Do they include a chest expansion exercise? I would also suggest that you take a pilates or yoga class. Personally, I lean toward pilates, as I find it engages my brain more fully while strengthening my abs so they can do their job of supporting my spine more efficiently. Other people find this in yoga, tai chi or qi gong; it all depends on what works for you.
Take it one day at a time. Do your research so you can take meds from the point of view of knowledge. And make the decisions that are right for you ... not just now, but going forward.
And please don't feel you have to apologize for anything. It's what we're here for.
Hugs,
