hi james,
i always say "one day at a time" and i also say "one thing at a time"...
trying to handle too many big things at once can be stressful,
so just take one thing slowly and you'll get there.
you will quit the smoking, once you get other things settled. it really sounded like you wanted to, so i'm sure you will. please do this for yourself when you can. i know my husband regrets not forcing his mother to quit.
sue
