Kickas.org Forums Ankylosing Spondylitis General Discussion #1 AS Web Support Group Love and support and do so much

Well after a fairly crappy week my husband did something that ment more to me than anything.

As some of you know I have been busy taking my aunt to her hospital app for her cancer. And I have been very up and down with my emotions and quick to anger and what not.

I was having a bit of a bad day early in the week and was frustrated that everyone else seemed to have an excuse for not helping with my aunt and just expecting me to do everything. Well I kind off lost it and shot my mouth off a little.
I have also been quick to anger with the kids and pretty much anyone who says or does something stupid.

I tried to appologise for some of the things I had said and asked for some understanding. I know how I have been reacting is not right so I did ask the doctor if I could take something for my depression and or see someone about it. But all he could say was that once I get the LDN and the pain is under control I will be fine.
So I explained this to my extended family and begged again for some undertstanding and forgiveness. But istead they have made some pretty nasty comments.

Well hubbby has had enough. I didn't know he was going to do this and I dont think he did either.
But he had to pick something up from my grandparents.
My grandmother was complaining about how I have been and being quite nasty about it.
Hubby totaly stood up for me and whilst he agreed that the way I have been is not right, he pointed out that not once has anyone came to ask me exactly what is wrong with me and how it affects me.
And that I have tried to explain things and ask for help but no one will listen, instead just treat me like I am the biggest B**** in the world. He also went on to explain that the family couldnt just expect me to do everything for everyone like I used to and that with such a large family everyone need to step up and do some things also not just expect one person to do it all the time (me).

Anyway hubby came home and told me what he did and what he said and I tell you what this little bit of love and support means more to me than anything. And it is prob all in my head but I even feel a little better pain wise.
It is just incredible how this little thing can mean the world.

So I thought I just had to share this, sorry its a little long.

Love to all
xx
Trish

A little help and understanding in the right place is great medicine all around. It's also great for your relationship with your hubby. I'm happy you've had this show of support.
Cindy

your husband deserves a carton of beer !!

Dont tell him that jet
Like he needs more encouragement. LOL

Boy that is good news. Your husband sounds like a stand-up kind of guy. Its great when someone is on your side and tries to understand. All the different medications and stresses of everyday life can really affect your pain and mood. Sometimes somthings gotta give. I hope the changes really help.

It's not in your head that you feel better. It's exactly what you needed. Some understanding. He understand that you are stressed and in pain and wanted them to as well. Good for him!! You have a keeper on your hands! I cant wait till my husband can graduate to that point.

Well he did have 3 major stuff ups in a row when I found out I had AS and each time I ended up in hospital so I think he has learnt his lesson. But to have him stick up for me like this was exactly what I needed. So yeah huge pat on the back for him.

Only wish I could reward him in the way I know he would like. LOL

Hi Trish, so happy this has happened, support from our spouse goes such a long way in helping us - the rest, well, if they have a problem with it, it is their problem not yours! Sounds like it was long overdue and I am so pleased for you. Maybe they will all think twice before mouthing off or criticising you and maybe, just maybe someone might actually give you a hand.... Take good care and I hope you have a great week.
Di

Having a husband on your side is priceless.