Kickas.org Forums Ankylosing Spondylitis General Discussion #1 AS Web Support Group Been a rough week

Inanna,

I am so sorry to hear about your cat. I love animals and I know what it is to lose one. You are in my prayers tonight.

Kat,
I am so sorry for your loss... I also had to put down a pet and it is very hard to do... you love them so much. I still miss my Lacy. I was so very sad about losing Lacy that I seem to know just how you feel about Isis... I now have another wonderful doggy named Bear Bear and he has helped me so much with my every day life.
Please take care and I hope the loss you feel so strongly now will soon stop hurting so much. Her memories will always be with you.

Kat, if it makes you feel any better, just as you were sitting there typing this through tears, I was just sitting here reading it through plenty of my own. What you described with your lovely Isis is an eerie carbon copy of how my Molly passed on last year, right down to the way she was acting at the end. The refusing food, the inability to get up or down off things, all of it. I knew Molly was not "right" when she didn't even try to get out of the way of my ex's hyperactive Yorkie. Normally she would have ran away and hid, but she stayed put right where she was laying on the floor. Even now I am positive that Noelle, the Yorkie, sensed Molly was sick because after running up to her all excited and looking to play, Noelle instead laid down beside Molly for a few moments and even licked her face a couple times. My heart sank as I watched that unfold, as I knew right then just how sick my baby was. Just a couple days later, I would pick her up one final time and stay awake all night with her, holding her in her blanket while sitting in my recliner, waiting for daylight to come so I could call my dad to come down and help me take her to the vet. My only regret in the way things unfolded is that I let the vet convince me that it could be something as simple as a potassium problem; he said he would try a treatment on her and then call me at 3 so I could come up and get an update. Instead, when he called, it was to tell me that she had not made it and had died without me there. Those words still hurt so dam much to type. I was very angry with the vet for not calling me sooner, but I was too heartbroken to even bother with the anger. Like Isis, Molly lived a very rich, very full life, as she was 16, almost 17 when she died.

So, reading your beautiful words really, really got to me Kat, and all I can do is offer my sincerest condolences on your loss and my support as you adjust to the loss of your Isis. While reading this made me sad, it also made me happy because I took time to remember happy memories of Molly too. About two months ago I finally broke down and brought a new cat into my life, a big old brute named OJ. He is the anti-Molly in many ways--big where she was small, vocal where she was quiet, playful and aggressive with the dog where Molly showed nothing but disdain. I am very grateful that he shares one very important characteristic with Molly, however, in that he is one of the biggest cuddle cats I've ever seen. If I'm sitting in my recliner, he's there on my lap, especially if I happen to have his favorite soft pink blanket (MY favorite too, but hey, he doesn't care about that!) pulled up to keep me warm.

I'm sending you all the good vibes I can from four hours away Kat! Thanks for sharing, and again, my heart goes out to you.

Brad

Kat - so sorry about your little sweetie. I had a dog and several cats and gradually had to face each one dying or being put to sleep. Very hard. I'm taking a long break right now with no pets. Don't want to deal with that again for a while.

You did the right thing and saved her from pain and misery that she wouldn't be able to understand. Good for you.

Hugs.

So sorry you lost your beloved pet.They really are family members and its hard to say good bye.I know what its like,i had to put my dog down 2 yrs ago after having him for 13 yrs.I really feel your heartbreak.

Fonzy

Kat sorry about the great loss.17.5 years what a privlage and yes they run the roost.They are family and they also teach us.they are hear for only a short time and love us no matter what.
Bradford

Sweetheart!

Your plate has been way to full for a long time now....

I am SO SORRY about Isis, she wasn't just an animal or even a pet she WAS your baby and the thing is you had her as long as a Mom would have a child almost 18 years.

By what you said she was a good girl, spoiled rotten I am sure..lol and sounds like the little sparkle in your eye.

It doesn't matter if she was just a kitty she was your baby and you are grieving for her just as you would a human and there sure the heck isn't anything wrong with that.

Her picture was beautiful and she did live a wonderful and full life thanks to her loving and caring Mommy.

Im sure you remember we went thru this with Tori's kitty Ryan about 3 years ago, he was just 5 when we lost him but it sounds like it was the same thing and I will tell you that you did do the right thing because we could see Ryan was in alot of pain, and watching them die in your arms is almost insane but them being alive and suffering is way more heart wrenching to me because they do not know and understand why they feel so bad or why they are dying.

Nothing will replace her EVER and sometimes even now we still have pictures of Ryan on our fridge and Tori and I will start talking about him and both of us will bust out bawling but in a good way. We were lucky we got to bury him in a box with a handmade blanket, his favorite stuffed dog (yea I know..lol) and we had a collar made for him with his name on it...wrapped him up and he looked like he was sleeping when we buried him and that is how we like to remember him.

Im so sorry Sweetheart, hopefully you have some wonderful pictures thru the years and I would make an album or pick a few for a collage or some 8 X 10's in your house. She deserves to be honored for the love and companionship she gave you for all these years.

If there is anything I can do Sweetie please let me know. Crying is ok, Tori and I cried off and on for months.

Hugs,

Lisa

Hi Kat,

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. This is a heart breaking story. I like your cat, I like her eyes and paws. She looks mysterious but yet cuddly. I bet you will remember her for a long time, as she will you. Kat, I was going to add more, but I can't, feeling bad about you and Isis.

Take care.
James

Kat,

This is most definately human related - you've lost a beloved companion. She was in your life and heart for a long time, and it is one of the hardest things to do but one of the greatest acts of kindness we can show our furry 'kids'. Treasure the special memories you have, these are the footprints they leave in our hearts.

Thinking of you.

Thank you to all of you. My sweet girl is definitely in my heart. The house is odd without her and all the animals miss her. Baba and Linkoan continue to get as close to me as possible (which really isn't unusual, but it feels different right now) and Tascha keeps looking for Isis. They're all a bit fretful, as are my sweetie and I.

When I went to bed on Wednesday night, memories of Isis carried me to sleep. Thank you for understanding what she meant in my life. Alot of people don't get that. They think, "It was just a cat," without realizing how much they can mean in someone's life.

Love and hugs,