Steve,
Really hate for you (or anyone) to be going through this.
The #1 most frustrating part about the dr. thing is that there isn't any way to know if they're any good until they've wasted your time and money.
Recommendations help but aren't always good enough. My husband's mother went to a dr. that came highly recommended by several people I respect alot. He told her "by the way" you have stroke level high blood pressure - make an appt. to see me about that. She didn't.
Hope you find a good dr. fast.
Valentine