Sorry to hear about hte flare.
I had about 3 years that I just plain lost out of my life from battling the pain of unbearable flares. NOt that the pain was always there jus that it interfered with my life on and off so often that things were sort of a mess.
I tell you this only so you realize that things get better. My health overall oddly may have been bettter than since I wasn't nearly as fused and on the days where the pain wasn't raging were much better than my normal days now. But somehow with changed mes' and changed routines and maybe familairity with the changing pains I "grew" into the changes ocurring.
The work thing was sooooo depressing and I at that point was not supporting a family. So much of my identity is and was tied into working. The good thing is there are things you can do that you haven't even thought of yet as a new form of earning a living. For now it sounds like fighting the apin is a full time experience and lots of us here know how exhausting that can be on a daily basis. Not that you would ever wishAS on anyone else but it is one of those things that you wish folks who don't understand could walk a mile in your shoes just so the world would know how tough each day of a flare is.
Pulling fo ya' here in NY-NJ.
stevec-they also serve who stand and wait
