All of you have been so encouraging and helpful. I've very happy to have joined this site.
I have an appointment with my rheumy at the end of May. My wife and I will sit down again before that time and discuss the pros and cons of the anti-TNF treatments and what's going to be best for me and my family moving forward. I'll keep you all posted as to my decision.
dmx, not too much trouble with iritis or anything like that yet. Keeping my fingers crossed that I can avoid that.