I'm sorry to hear all that and in the end it's your decision. I always said that I would rather live alone in a one bedroom appartment than be unhappy... but having a kind generous husband I have never had to put that to the test. There doesn't seem to be any good answers. You say you sleep on the couch so that she can get a good nights rest...but if she is telling you she wants you in the bed with her maybe you should try going back to it if you can. She seems to put her foot down in relation to your health and wellbeing it may be time for you to do the same. She may soon come to realize that it's not the best for the two of you to be in the same bed with the restless legs etc. As far as the sleeping on the couch - if it's a matter of physical comfort, you may need to stand up for yourself and just get the bed. I can't imagine anyone who would want their loved one to be uncomfortable or contribute to thier pain. I myself could not imagine trying to sleep on the couch and would hope you would discontinue that as an option. You are not 14 and especially with your issues I can't imagine that you are getting any relief on the couch. I don't know you and don't want to sound rude but you are allowing this by not coming to your own aide. I wonder if this was happening to a friend of yours on the forum what advise you might give to make it a better situation. I wish you love and peace...Sue!