I know this is an old thread but I read the story and could soooo relate. My husband of 10 years at the time of my diagnosis started acting the same way. But he now gets it and couldn't be more helpful or understanding. I was lucky, no wait scratch that He was lucky he changed he gets to keep me.
I was just touching base with you to reach out to tell you that there are others as you see who have been there. If you ever need someone to talk to or chat with who has been there I am here. Hugs to you hun hope all is working out well for you.
Christina  I may have AS, PsA, ReA, SpA and every Itis you can imagine but my Itis's do not define me. Dx'd April 2008 Prednisone 5mg Plaquinel 400mg Enbrel 50mg/week Methotrexate 25mg/week Lidoderm 5% patch, love em! Bio-35 multivit I call them crackamins their great for energy! and a whole slew of anti-inflammatory and pain pills 
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