Hi Tulip and welcome to KA.

Your story is, sadly, far too familiar to too many of us. I'm glad your daughter's rheumy relented and agreed to see you. He sounds like a keeper.
I totally get what you're saying about Remicade. It was a revelation to me just how much in my life was explained and resolved after I started on it.
Never worry about being a whinger here. We all do it at times.
Hugs,