Thanks Chris. It's nice to know there are people that understand exactly what I am going through. I wish non of us had to know how this feels, but it's wonderful that we can support each other this way. My hubby is Military also, but he is retiring in June. Most likely we will move to Colorado so he can work as a civilian. By the way...how does it feel to be a civilian? It's a huge lifestyle change and it's a bit scary leaving the security of the military.