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Hi, ilbcrzn!
So glad you're back. Don't feel embarrassed. Many of us have been there, and depression is the worst! Glad you didn't stay away.

Hi Ilbcrzn!
Glad to see you back!

When I have been severely depressed, I've done things which have seemed foolish in hindsight. Depression does weird things to your mind, making irrational thoughts seem logical.

Another thing I remember from when I was depressed was that little things took on enormous significance. Someone honking at me in traffic or a brusque salesperson could make me cry for 15 minutes while the smallest kindness could leave me pathetically grateful.

Is your depression being treated? If not, please get some help and see someone. I have benefited greatly from medication and supplements myself, while others have found relief in counseling and other remedies.

Stick around and ask for help when you need it. That's why we are all here.

Karen

Hi Ilbcrzn, depression is sneaky, it makes you feel like things will always be this way. I'm glad you're feeling better. I think your objective look at it, and the way you took responsibility for your post (some people might have joined as some one new) are two really good signs that you'll bounce back more easily next time. I think you handled it with grace.

Fellow sufferer: Working here when I still could in Silicon valley when we first got EMail and internet in the 80's I learned that feelings can get hurt when conversing electronically because there is no "Face Time" . Sometimes people take it the wrong way when they can't hear the inflections in your voice and some of us ,especially me,can not always say things in print in a sort of tactful way. There have been people here in the past that have been asked to leave because they are obviously taking their AS pain out on the kind folks here. I don't come here as often as I used to because sitting upright at a computer gets painful but I am trying to do better as this forum is helpful to everyone .I do hope you change your mind! Kev

I am very glad you came back. For me this is a life line. My family is still having some trouble accepting me as I am now. So I am very happy you came back. I too have to accept that I now have depression and sometimes me anger surfaces. I have to choose my words carefully when it flares or I too have to apologize later. Welcome back..

Merry Christmas buddy!

No worries.

Hey! You're back! Great that you made it. Judging by all your replies, I wasn't the only one concerned for you. Hope you have a great holiday season, and be sure to pop back in here soon.

This stink'in disease can really make us have up and down days and it really affects our personalities at times. I have good days and bad days. It's not only the pain, but everything that goes with it. Don't feel bad because I am a casual user of this great site and it is because I am working full time and trying to raise a family. I don't get that many replies, but I really can't expect too many because some of the folks can't work which unfortunately makes it possible to spend more time on the computer, so I guess I am the lucky one. Don't feel bad about down days because we are all with you.

have a merry Christmas.

Tom

Im so glad you are going to stay!

I so know about depression, there is such a big difference in being blue, mild depression, major depression and mental illness.

When I first joined the board years ago I got my feelings hurt also...the sad thing for me is I do have major depression and will the rest of my life and when people didnt answer I got my feelings hurt.

There are actually 3 people here that I do not get along or care for, they have been very mean, I have learned that they have no clue, it is not an excuse for being mean to someone but I just ignore them. I have been accussed of just posting to see how many responses I would get or I just whine when I dont get enough posts..none of which are true.

Kick AS is a WONDERFUL place and there are SO many good people here and I will tell you that there are many people that are my friends and more, some here I would do anything I could for. You also have people you are going to clash with, I think I am lucky there have just been 3 out of how many great people here???

Now I just do or say what I want to and they dont have to read what I say I could care less and just for me I am not interested in what they have to say that is why we have an ignore button.

Just remember several people here have said and like me included I have been here like 6 or 7 years now I am sicker than I was before, more Dr. appts, more time in bed. I have also taken on home-schooling our 14 year old daughter which is an almost all day long job, Trudi God Bless that woman she is home schooling 5.....YEA!!!!!!

You will notice a spurt maybe when people feel better or maybe have a little more time.

And yes we have alot of watchers, people that just read or dont want to respond and they shouldnt be made to feel bad if they dont want to.

Maybe if someone is new and dont understand just say hey guys I need some responses I need some feedback or I REALLY could use some support right now.

I will try and pay a little more attention also.

Hugs,

Lisa

Thanks for your understanding. I still am embarassed but not in an unhealthy way. I wish the whole thing would have never happened. At least here no one is waiting to kick you when your down.